Friday, February 17, 2012

Impressions and Recommendation of "My Parents Married on a Dare" by Carlfred Broderick


Carlfred Broderick is one of my favorite Mormon authors because he is remarkably humorous while at the same time being very insightful and poignant.  His patriarchal blessing (which he received at the tender age of 9) states that he would write literature that would bless others.  Well as they say - I am a great believer in prophecies that come true.  The essays compiled in "My Parents Married on a Dare" certainly are a fulfillment of the patriarch's words; blessing my life and many others.

The second chapter, "The Core of My Faith" deals with how he has approached and resolved the contradictions that occur between his faith and his scholarship; including issues such as Blacks and the priesthood, evolution, and homosexuality.  No doubt there will always be contradictions in this life where we are to walk by faith and prove ourselves.  Broderick's methodology helps one stay safely on the strait and narrow path while not ignoring troubling questions.  While he values both faith and scholarship, he concludes with "I never forget that when the Savior greets me at the veil, it will not be my scholarship that will be examined." 

Part II of the book entitled "Some Incidental Observations on Mormon Marriages" should be required reading for any member of the church who is married or even considering marriage.  I have often considered the pursuit of a happy marriage to actually be the quest for the Holy Grail of life.  As a leader in the field of marriage and family counseling/education Carlfred Broderick provides incredible insight in his four short articles based on research and years of experience working in the field.  It is not often that you get such good and concise answers to questions such as, "But what if your husband is a jerk?" and "How come good people can have bad marriages?"

Broderick saves the best for last.  The final three chapters deal with "The familial relationships of Jesus", "What justification can there be for innocent children being born into abusive families?", and "The uses of adversity."  If you have heartache because of family members, Broderick provides consolation and good reasons why the Savior understands because of His own family experience.  How often do you get an opportunity to experience an expert in family counseling talking about the familial relationships of Jesus? 

Abuse and pain of any kind are just hard to understand.  I have been deeply touched by the reasons and explanation that is provided in the last two articles.  They can change your perspective and the respect you will have for people (including yourself) who have to endure such.

I love Broderick's humor like this example, "It goes without saying that all of that religious precocity made me an obnoxious child, the bane of every Sunday School teacher.   Once when I was ten, I was sent home for explaining to the class what 'Thou shalt not commit adultery' really meant.  It had seemed clear to me from her explanation that our teacher did not quite understand the concept."  My recommendation of this book, however, is not based on the incredible wit but rather on how it deals with and answers some of the hard aspects and questions of life.  Mortality was not intended to be a cake walk and we all get beat up and wounded while on this battlefield.  It is reassuring to know that there is a purpose and good can come out of this.  This book helps provide that.  I have extra copies and will be happy to lend a copy (since it is out of print) if anyone is interested.

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